Many of us find ourselves enmeshed ongoing in a battle of balance; protect without hovering; teach without enabling; bond without smothering. We take great measures to secure additional income & sacrifice deeply to cover tuition, extracurriculars, camps, healthy meals, a bigger vehicle, a family therapist. We research the best practitioners. We want to shield them from creeps and perpetrators. We want them to have healthy relationships and we work very hard to model all of this in our day-to-day lives despite how difficult it may be to do the work and parent simultaneously.
But what if we’re setting our kids up for failure from the very foundation we’re so invested in building? What if we are unwittingly inviting danger into their lives, now or in the future? What if we are creating a scenario that negatively impacts them as they find their own way in this world?